Cord cutting is a very common practice in both spiritual and secular traditions. The practice of cord cutting helps to recover energy that has been lost and to re-establish healthy energetic boundaries.
When we enter into relationship with someone, whether it is with family, friend, intimate partner, colleague, someone we have regular dealings with, or even an individual that you meet in passing, we develop energetic cords. Now, these cords aren’t necessarily bad. They actually help us to form connection and understanding with one another.
When we are connected energetically, we perceive on a much deeper level and have the ability to tune into the energy of another. We are all energy beings and while we tend to interact with the world through our 5 physical senses, the truth is that our primary means of relating is energetically.
Why Cut Cords?
As we move through our lives - growing, learning, evolving - we must necessarily let go of that which no longer serves us. When we let go, we create space. This space is that of potential, of possibility.
You can think of this like many small steps of transition. Each day we are evolving. Learning and growing beyond what we once were. Holding on to what was would prevent us from moving forward.
If we were to continue accumulating all of the left overs from every past thought, action and experience, we would be heavily weighted down by the burden of it all. And so, when we transition from one way of being to another, whether that is via relationship with another person or simply how we relate to life, it is necessary to let go of what is no longer helpful.
Cutting cords helps to move through transition without the burden of carrying the weight of the past. It frees us to move forward with lightness and a sense of openness.
In terms of relationship with others, we tend to hold onto much more than is healthy for us energetically, physically and even spiritually. The cords that we create must be cut in order for us to free ourselves from that which no longer serves us.
Cord cutting doesn’t apply just to past relationships or relationships that are ‘draining’ you. We can also choose to cut cords in our present relationships, even those that are really great for us, as a way of continually cleansing the energy between us and creating space for new.
You can visualize an energetic cord as a tube connecting us to another person, with energy flowing within the tube. If the cord is depleting us, the energy will be flowing away from us. If the cord is feeding us, energy will be flowing toward us.
At times, this energy flow may seem very helpful. We can share our energy with someone who seems to need it, and we can receive energy when we feel depleted. But, we need to watch out for the potential of energy imbalance that occurs when we maintain this connection too long, or if we are giving of our energy when we don’t have the energy to give.
Oftentimes, even long after a relationship has ended, we maintain these energetic cords. They can be so subtle that we don’t even know that they’re there. But, an accumulation of cords from many people, and the slow depletion of energy over time, creates an energy deficit.
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Signs of Unhealthy Cording
energy levels are depleted
feelings of general leathery, depression, unexplained sadness
feelings of being ‘stuck’ or unable to make decision
obsessive thoughts about another person
speaking often about another person, often in a judgmental or deprecating way
lowered immune function - getting sick often
unhealthy habits and addictive behaviours - seeking comfort in excess such as smoking, binge eating, drinking, drugs and even seemingly healthy habits such as over-exercising
How to Cut Energetic Cords
While we are a culture that likes to try to ‘think’ our way through things, in order to regain the energy that we have lost through cord connections, we must engage energetically. There are many ways to cut energetic cords.
Let’s look at a few of the ways to cut these cords on your own, finishing with a Visualization and blessing that will help you cut cords and establish energetic boundaries:
Salt Bath - salt helps to cleanse your energetic body and brings you into a state of balance
Smudging - the ritual of cleansing with smoke is one that purifies the energetic body and helps to re-establish connection with Divine
Journaling - write out everything that you have been wanting to say to another person. Don’t hold back. Share your frustrations and your desires. After you are complete you may choose to burn the writing as a symbol of release.
Visualization - in your mind’s eye, visualize the individual you wish to cut a cord with and scissors so that you can cut the cord. Begin by connecting to the energy of the Divine - the source of all creation. See the energetic cord that connects you with the other. Feel the energy that is draining from you. Now, with intention, visualize yourself cutting the cord between you with the scissors and witness as the energetic cord recoils back into both you and the other. Take a moment to anchor the experience by feeling the recovery of energy and thanking the other person for the role that they have/do play in your life.
You may choose to speak the following blessing afterwards:
I now sever and release any and all energetic cords that do not serve my highest good. I release you and I release me from these binds.
All cords are destroyed, across all dimensions, times and planes, never to return again.
I hereby banish these energetic cords and recover now all energy that was once lost. My energy flows back to me, filling me once again with vitality and creating now a peaceful energetic boundary of love and light.
And so it is.
After you have spoken the blessing, spend some time sitting in quiet Meditation. Feel the energy that has been reclaimed and take the time needed to re-integrate.
Imagine yourself now being cloaked in a luminescent blanket of energetic protection. This coating of light is your energetic boundary. See and feel how this boundary helps you to maintain your highest level of energy. Intend that this boundary remain in place as you step confidently forward into your day.