5 Steps to Start Living Your Dreams NOW

by Caroline Stewart

*an excerpt from my personal story of playing BIG

I believe that we all have purpose.  That we are here in this time, in this place, to create.  We are NOT here to play small and live a life of what ifs.

The following are 5 essential truths - steps that will guide you through the uncomfortable and important process of creating the life that you dream of.

1.            Fuck fear!

2.            Create vision

3.            Build support

4.            Show up

5.            Remember love


Fuck fear!

When I realized that fear was just a belief that I held, I knew that I needed a way to release the limiting beliefs that had been holding me back.  I spent a lot of time searching for tools and found the most incredible one to be the process of inquiry.

My favorite resource for inquiry is The Work of Byron Katie (www.thework.com).  Inquiry guides us through the mental exercise of self-awareness and shows us that our beliefs are not real.  

This inquiry has moved me past so many boundaries I had previously created for myself and into more authenticity and acceptance than I knew possible.  It has helped me see the truth behind my thoughts and allowed me to create incredible relationships that are based in acceptance and support.


Create vision

My purpose exists within me as an emerging vision for my life.  This vision evolves and guides me on the path of purpose and acts as the foundation for all else.

I have found vision work to be such a powerful tool for transformation.  By actively writing down the truth of my emerging nature through my vision, I offer support and create congruity in thought and belief for my path of purpose.  

I use this vision as the personal manifesto that guides my choices and helps me discern between what is true for me and what is not.

I practice this visioning work on a regular, if not daily, basis and also teach it to others.  Here are just a few of the important questions that I ask myself in order to draw out the vision that is emerging:

1.            When you picture the life that you desire, how do you want it to look and feel?

2.            Near the end of your life, when you look back, how do you want your life to look?

3.            When you daydream or get lost in your thoughts, what are these wishful thoughts about?

4.            Reflecting back on all of the things you have done in your life, what has provided you with the most joy and satisfaction?

5.            If you could do anything with your time that you pleased and no longer had to work, how would you spend your time?  Who would you share your time with?


Build support

My support network has been my lifeline and so integral to my growth.  Choosing to spend time and energy with the people who support my vision and sharing my support in return has offered more strength than I knew possible.

Building these networks felt daunting at first.  The walls I had put up before weren't welcome.

The secret I discovered is to start where I am.  I reached out to family and friends and finally shared all the parts of me that I had previously kept hidden - my truth, my vision, and my desires.  It was hard as hell, but I finally asked for support. 

No more 'I am an island’ bullshit.  I spent far too long in this.  And when I finally opened up and asked for help I discovered that it’s just not true.  There is no such thing as alone; there is only a forgetting of the truth that we are all intricately and undeniably connected.

Show up

We can think about and talk about this journey all we want.  But wisdom only comes from application.  And so I commit to applying it!

I choose to bring my truth to relationships, my work, my health, and every single word and action I offer.  No longer playing small, I choose to show up and be seen. 

Yes it’s uncomfortable, and yes I want to hide under the biggest rock some days.  But this is why I’ve built my vision and support network.  To remind me of the truth of my purpose.

Remember love

And finally, the most beautiful and authentic truth I’ve learned is to remember love.  Act from love, receive in love, believe in love. 

Be love.

I choose to be authentic and accepting and honest to my core.  No more playing small.  Fuck fears.  I’m ready for so much more!